We’re all living a dynamic life.
Some of us are more sedentary than others but even then there are some dynamic factors in our lives. And the dynamic aspect of our lives is what triggers change.
You may love changes or you may hate them. But the changes are there either way and I believe it’s better if you learn to accept the changes that are happening in your life.
When does a change happen?
A change is the result of one or more actions.
The more actions the change requires, the more it will take you to notice the change.
For example, if you go three times a week to the gym, you will notice the change that impacts your body only after three months, maybe more than that. If you fall down and you break your leg, then the change happens instantly and you can notice it right away.
In both cases, the changes are a result of your actions. In the first example, the change is a result of you going three times a week to the gym for a longer period of time. In the second example, the change is a result of you not paying attention.
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But there are some cases where we don’t notice the change, at least not right away and others may notice it before us. And not noticing it can be a bad thing, most of the time for our mental health.
For example, you are physically attracted to someone and you end up in a relationship with that person. Even though you enjoy the sex, that person is also fucking you mentally. And you ignore your mental health because you enjoy the sex part of your relationship. That change will be noticed only when the things in your life will get so bad you won’t be able to take it anymore.
Embrace vs. denial of change
For sure, there are PROs and CONs for both embracing and denying a change.
When it comes to embracing a change:
|If the change impacts your life negatively, you’ll be able to easily shift the change into something positive.||If there are too many changes in your life, you may be in a situation when you say yes to most or all of them and, after one year of continuously changing your life and yourself, you won’t recognize yourself anymore.|
|The more you can embrace changes, the more you are open to new experiences and live life fully.|
|The openness to embracing a change helps you move forward and overcome failure efficiently.|
When it comes to denying a change:
|Sometimes, your happiness depends on how much you stick to your decisions. For example, getting another job just because it provides a better income is a change that could be avoided because the current job is providing you more benefits than just an income.||If you try as hard as possible to avoid changes, you won’t evolve and will get stuck in a moment of your life. For example, when you try to deny the death of someone close to you.|
This being said, it’s up to you and it’s your responsibility to decide if you want to embrace or deny a change. Just make sure you think it through because it will be even harder to revert a change.
Types of the mindset that help to deal with changes
Dealing with the changes in your life can be overwhelming for some people. But have you noticed that there are some who can better comprehend what’s happening in their lives and move on faster?
Those people see things differently and it’s helping them to deal with changes more efficiently.
Having your mindset on experimenting with things and activities has amazing benefits.
With this type of mindset, you are curious to discover and to understand what is happening in your life. You want to understand the mechanics behind what you’re using and eventually master it.
At the foundation of an experimental mindset lays one important factor: curiosity.
And when you’re dealing with change, being curious will provide you the ability to find solutions to overcome the negative changes.
Having your mindset on the positive side of the road will help you become conscious.
When something really bad happens in your life, most of your attention will be focused on the negative side of what will happen. And while you may think there’s nothing positive left in your life, I assure you there will always be.
The positive mindset will come in handy and it’s going to be vital for these moments. In the end, even spotting one positive aspect in your life when there seems to be none will help you tremendously.
Having your mindset on seeing things as part of something will help you break down into smaller things everything you encounter.
It will help you rationalize things and see them as they are, not as you want them to be.
Dealing with change oftentimes can produce illusions in our lives, mostly because we can’t really understand the change or we don’t want to accept or embrace it. The structural mindset will help you balance things out and stay focused on improving the situation.
Identify, accept and move on
These three steps are part of the process of dealing with a change.
Being able to do all of them and to master them will help you become more responsible, will help you grow and actually live your life instead of continuously trying to solve your problems.
- Identify the change
As I mentioned, the change happens as a result of a number of actions. And identifying it is not always easy.
To be able to identify when your life changes, you have to become conscious of what is happening inside your life. You have to become conscious of who you are, who you are not and who you want to be. You have to become conscious of your relationships with your friends, family, coworkers, boss, and so on. You have to become conscious of your actions.
Only then you’ll be able to spot a change in time and decide what you want to do with it.
At the same time, you may look at a change and see only a simple unpleasant situation. In this case, focusing on it right away and dealing with the unpleasant situation can be really helpful.
Otherwise, the longer that unpleasant situation will be part of your life, the more it will shift into something bigger.
- Accept the change
I believe that accepting the change, if it has already happened, it’s more important than denying it.
As I mentioned, reverting a change is something you don’t especially want to do because that’s harder than making a change.
For example, let’s say you go to the gym because you want to lose weight. After one year, you find out that you lost 15 kilograms and you’re really happy. In this case, if you want to revert the change, you have to start eating a lot and getting your kilograms back could make you feel bad.
But who wants to gain fat, right?
Here’s another example.
Let’s say you changed your job because the new one has its office closer to where you live. You were happy with your last job, but you were spending almost one hour on the road. You decided to make a change and get another job, so now you’re only spending 15 minutes on the road. After one month, you start realizing you miss your coworkers and your boss rejects most of your ideas. The more time passes, the more you think about the job you left.
In this case, reverting the change will be even harder than trying to find a way to enjoy your current job.
- Move on
Moving on has a lot to do with understanding what’s happening.
When you finally manage to understand why something has happened to you, you will become more open to moving on. Most of the time, when we understand the change, we also can let go of our past. We may not agree, but we understand that we can’t do anything about it anymore.
Therefore, if you want to move on from something that’s dragging you back into your past, try to understand what it is before anything else.
Become conscious of the next unexpected change
We’re all living a dynamic life. And because of that, changes will always be a part of our life.
Becoming conscious of the next unexpected change is something that’s related to how you live your life and there’s no formula for improving this skill.
Just make sure you know who you are and what you want. These two factors are vital when dealing with a change.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
David The Optimist
David believes that reaching dreams has a lot to do with the way we set goals and how well they are connected to our lifestyles, no matter how big the obstacles may be.